Communication between you and your ex can be strained or worse when you’re having to figure things out about the children. There are a variety of options that you can use to do this. Some people prefer verbal communication, but others opt for emails, text messages or parenting apps.
One thing that you should never do is try to send messages back and forth through the children. It can be tempting simply because it doesn’t involve you having to deal with your ex, but that opens you up to a variety of issues.
Chance of improperly relayed messages
Improperly relayed messages are one of the most common risks that you face when you try to use children as messengers. Even small misspeaks by the children can lead to significantly altered messages, which can necessitate contentious conversations between you and your ex to correct the issues.
Emotional damage to the children
Children who are forced to relay messages between their parents sometimes feel that they have to choose sides, which is a situation no child should be placed in. Being put in the middle of their parents can lead to stress and emotional turmoil. That can be increased if the children are subjected to harsh reactions when they relay messages.
It’s always best to have a comprehensive parenting plan in place to govern the arrangement for raising the children. This should include the terms about how communication will be handled. Because there are so many points that are included in a solid plan, it may be best to work with someone familiar with these matters so they can provide guidance at each step.
