Virtual parenting time, often referred to as virtual visitation, allows co-parents to stay connected through video calls, messaging apps and other online platforms whenever their child is residing with their other parent.
For virtual visitation to be successful, careful scheduling, cooperation and a commitment from both parents to prioritize the child’s best interests are ideal. After all, such efforts can cause more tension than good if they are not approached thoughtfully.
Establishing a consistent schedule
Like in-person parenting time, virtual visitation should follow a structured schedule that provides predictability for both a child and their parents. Setting specific days and times for calls helps children feel secure and allows them to understand that virtual visitation is now a regular part of their routine. Parents should consider their child’s school schedule, extracurricular activities and bedtime to find times that work without disrupting important daily routines.
At the same time, a successful schedule also requires flexibility. Life can be unpredictable, and occasional adjustments may be necessary. Parents should be reasonably willing to accommodate schedule changes when the situation genuinely warrants that kind of grace.
Choosing appropriate communication platforms
Selecting an appropriate platform for virtual visitation is also an important step in making the experience enjoyable for a child. Video calls through Zoom, Caribu or Skype allow for face-to-face interaction, which can be more engaging than a phone call. For younger children, incorporating fun activities such as reading a bedtime story, playing an online game or watching a short video together can help maintain their interest and strengthen the bond with their parent.
For older children, virtual communication can extend beyond scheduled calls. Text messaging, social media and email can provide additional ways for parents and children to stay connected between visits. However, both parents should agree on appropriate communication methods to better ensure that they are age-appropriate for the child.
Minimizing miscommunications
Clear guidelines should be established to prevent conflicts about virtual visitation. Parents should respect the agreed-upon schedule and avoid using virtual visits as an opportunity to discuss co-parenting disputes. Additionally, each parent must provide a quiet and distraction-free environment for the child during virtual visits. If interruptions occur frequently or if a parent does not facilitate the child’s participation, it can lead to frustration and negatively impact the relationship.
To that end, if any disagreements or concerns cannot be easily resolved, parents should keep in mind that seeking legal guidance and support is always an option.
