When you’re going through a divorce, one of the last things you want to do is have it negatively impact your children. You’ve done all you can to minimize the pain and suffering that you and your spouse will go through, so you want to do the same for your kids.

As two parents with the best wishes of your children at heart, you have a positive opportunity to explain the divorce and guide your children through it. If your children are young, they may not completely understand what’s happening, so it’s up to you to make sure they know that you love them and will be there for them moving forward.

Older children may understand what a divorce entails and why they happen. For those who are old enough to have opinions, make sure you talk to them about the custody arrangements you come up with and what their wishes are.

Children of all ages like to have at least some control in this kind of situation. If you can, give your children back some control by allowing them to choose a new bedroom, help with the custody schedule or just by giving them specific time with you or the other parent. That kind of control can help them gain back the balance that was lost due to the divorce.

Divorcing with children isn’t easy, but you can get through it. Our website has information on how you can protect the best interests of your children and guide them as you go through your divorce. If you and your spouse work together, you can come up with positive solutions that benefit your children.