If your marriage is on the rocks, it won’t be long before you consider the pros and cons of asking your spouse for a divorce. Should you come to the conclusion that moving on from your marriage is the best approach, it’s time to prepare yourself for a difficult conversation.

Here are some tips you can follow to reduce the stress associated with asking your spouse for a divorce:

  • Have a plan: Don’t blurt out that you want a divorce and hope that it goes over well. Have a plan for when you’ll ask, where you’ll ask and how you’ll approach the subject. 
  • Avoid arguments: Tensions are running high, so it’s likely that an argument is in the cards. Avoid this by keeping your cool and avoiding discussion revolving around the details of your divorce, such as those associated with child custody and property division.
  • Hear them out: Even though you’re set on divorcing your spouse, you should at least give them the time to speak their mind. It may not change the way you feel or what you do next, but it at least allows your spouse to share their feelings.

The entire divorce process is full of twists, turns, challenges and frustrations. However, once you get your feelings into the open, you can at least move forward in an intentional manner.

As you prepare for everything the divorce process will bring, do your best to protect yourself, your financial circumstances and all your legal rights. You don’t want to make a mistake that you will regret after your divorce is in the books.